Pick Yourself UP BLACK WOMAN!!!

This blog is dedicated to the faint hearted,  hopeless, broken, torn down, tired, not appreciated, fed up, hurting, crying at night, can't sleep, worried, black woman. I have seen and experienced some painful relationships myself. I have to honestly say that it sickens me to see others go through a feeling of having to buy into a man's feelings for you! This is the weakest thing you could ever do... A man is supposed to be a man, his job is to woo the woman, and her gift to him is to remain the queen she is humbly and virtuously.  Grace is something God gives you as you walk the path God intends for you to walk, it is up to the man to seek that in a woman. If you are trying to "make" a man see that in you  how are you letting God do his part?  He is supposed to see you through the eyes of the "Most High" and cherish you just as much as he cares for himself. He is your helper not your discomfort... If he's a real man it takes God to help you see that, if you are constantly going through bullshit with this so called man it's not God's fault it's your fault. He did not intend for a woman to carry that load all on her own, with all do respect you are blind if you think that changing someone's ways or heart by the things you do for them is going to make them, "make you happy" that's just dumb. You have to decide to be happy with just the thought of God doing what he does in your life. I've been there done that trying to make someone see why they should love me. Bottom line is I love Me, God loves Me, and my seeds love ME! If that love is deep enough a real man will recognize that she knows who she is, and doesn't have to prove anything to me. He appreciates that woman that God has molded spiritually, physically, and mentally! Since he was the first the Almighty God made let me define (MAN)-the human individual as representing the species, without reference to sex; the human race; humankind: Man hopesfor peace, but prepares for war.


Never be afraid to let something that's not working for you go. God may have something better in store for you, and it maybe taking some time because he needs to work on you more. And don't be so dependent on worrying about what a man can give to you emotionally or physically. Because the "I AM" is that and so much more if you have a personal relationship with him this is obvious. Ladies how do you rush unhappiness? It begins to make you bitter and no man wants a bitter woman he can't see the God in you. You cannot give to much of yourself to a man because he is not going to give all of himself to you. There is only ONE being that knows all of us from the inside out.  Give all of you to God and you will know exactly who he sends to complete you.

Know who you are, if you don't know the power inside of you or the crown on your head you will be just as lost as these so called men out here. Find yourself in the LORD. Just because the sex is good doesn't mean it was meant to be. Don't be so thirsty for the temporary feeling, then come next week you all stressed out because he on another chicks time given her the same temporary feeling. If that's all you feel you're worth then you deserve what you get and it ain't the gift God wants to give you. Have some confidence about your own well being and self-worth, never give another human being the power to take away what makes you happy. There are things that are acceptable and unacceptable ladies you better start letting these men know what boundaries are not to be crossed. If you aren't you will be taken advantage of, and of course you will be the only one hurting in the end. I hear a lot of women say "I don't need a man" well I'm here to tell you "I do" and not just any ole kind of man. All women need a man because that is the reason they were made >for them and them for us!  If you are a woman who has already started a family >single mothers... These values should be A-1 to you, your children learn from you so be smart about who you choose to value that relationship with.  They see when any other person is upsetting, offsetting, any happiness in the home. There has to be a balance and it begins with God!