Tension Tools

Sometimes it maybe hard for us to understand why we lash out at others for no good reasons. You may find yourself bothered with the presence of someone for no apparent reason, just the simple fact that they are standing near you may get on your nerves. With all of the things going on all around us it's hard to see that stress relievers could be something you need on a daily basis. After all it's not easy being human, and impossible to be a perfectly pleasant person everyday. If that's how you live your life somehow you are still off balance. That can set you in a place to automatically blow up like a ticking time bomb.With that effect we can lose trust in all types of friendships and cross boundaries that could possibly cause us to lose out on great friendships. Gaining a handle with knowing yourself and setting  limits on how much you can take to accept another persons emotions and personality can be stressful. Believe it or not we deal with other peoples emotions everyday, at work, at home, even within ourselves as we make hard decisions in life. Funny how the smallest thing can trigger stress. There are many things we can do to bring the pressure down, like exercise, meditation, deep breathing, reading, music therapy, and the one thing I think we all can agree on is sex.  I don't think that there is one single particular thing we can point out that brings on tension. This world is forever turning like the worries of our minds we worry about bills, our children ,family, friends, judgments, money, jobs, religion, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives,the future, the past, but almost never the present. The key to having less headaches is to live to enjoy the mere fact of living, enjoying the little things that keep you relaxed and calm. My tension reliever is meaningful sex, it has no boundaries and we both get satisfaction out of enjoying it with each other.When I say meaningful I mean something to you and you mean something to me we have full understanding of what our relationship is to each other it's not selfish but kind with fulfillment to the both of us. Music is my therapy as well, it goes awesome with sex so much that when I want to really relax  I can begin to write with release of what I was feeling at that very moment especially if I can relate to that song. I find that when I'm going through a tension moment it's a moment I have to handle gentle for it is" MY" own mind and body I have to take pleasure in, by receiving my gifts or the gifts around me. This will help me to appreciate the fact that people around me aren't to blame for the trials we all face everyday. At the end of the day sometimes it's okay to be selfish with yourself, other people's expectations can be pressure beyond measure if you allow it. So stop allowing tension but do allow yourself to enjoy the bits and pieces of genuine life.